Find your own meaning to life

“It’s not a bad thing to look at others in a positive light but in all of this, you can’t forget your own light.It’s the most important one, the one you must keep alive with undying passion for life.”


Hello there fellow internet strangers, the reason that I decided to start this whole blog was to share my perspective on how we can help ourselves to better our own lives. I am not a professional in this area, I have by no means studied in this field; well… other than my total of 10 college classes in psychology, which I missed most of by the way. Not a very smart decision in hindsight. I’m just a simple 25-year-old woman who’s decided to take life into her hands and I decided to bring you along with me on this journey where we can find our dream purposes together, if you know what I mean. Well, you probably don’t so here, I’ll explain:

I’m a soul-searcher like pretty much anyone else on this planet, I suppose. I’ve lived a quarter of my life now and I’ve done it seemingly without any sort of purpose before I started this whole blog. I lived my life in a way that would make others happy while I put my own dreams aside. I made myself small so that I could make others feel tall. I looked upon them with amazement and envy my whole life. They seemed like they had it all, like they had their lives together, while I just wallowed in my darkness. It’s not a bad thing to look at others in a positive light but in all of this, you can’t forget your own light. It’s the most important one, the one you must keep alive with undying passion for life.

“I was an anchor, falling to the deepest ocean bottom, without anything to pull me up. People would simply not understand this state of negative emotion, state of absolute and utter darkness that invaded me. I could not convey what I felt in those moments of despair or, more like, what I didn’t feel at all.

Passion is what can fuel you to re-energize yourself and feel alive again. To me, it is one of the most beautiful concepts to exist in the English language. A strong and barely controllable emotion. What more could bring us to life better than our own emotions?

Accord importance to fueling your passions in life as these will give you the energy to live life meaningfully. The times when I let others control important aspects of my life and when life felt out of my hands were the most grueling moments in which I felt the most deprived of energy. I was an anchor, falling to the deepest ocean bottom, without anything to pull me up. People would simply not understand this state of negative emotion, state of absolute and utter darkness that invaded me. I could not convey what I felt in those moments of despair or, more like, what I didn’t feel at all. The more I fell into depression, the more I felt disconnected from others. You’re in a labyrinth, in a different dimension trying to communicate with people from a completely different fun ass dimension. Depression leaves you as a mess of confusion about what life’s intent really is overall. Also, why yes, I do love sci-fi, thank you for asking. Anyways, I’m hopeful this brought a smile following the dark turn things were taking.

For this reason, despite being taught to never dream big and to fit inside the mold, I still broke through and kept dreaming. I’m writing because I love to write, I’m telling you this because this is what life is about. It’s about finding your own meaning and listening to your inner voice. After all, who knows yourself better than you and your own subconscious do?

I believe life’s intent for humans is rather simple and we’re just making this whole existence thing way too complicated. In the whole 14 seconds that humanity represents on the  cosmic calendar, we have been assigned the task of finding our purpose and worth in the life we lead. We are a species leading an endless fight with our own emotions but let’s not forget, we have an undeniable ability to show resilience. This allows for growth of our inner selves despite whatever shitty situation may be thrown at us during this sole existence. Once we’ve grown enough, we’re ready to change our attitude towards life and to shift to a more positive one. Following this, we discover that our dreams become a clear possibility in our mind; self-doubt vanishes because of this new belief in your self that is instilled with your personal growth. From this sentence, you’re probably thinking, “so, you’re putting the responsibility of all of life’s actions on me, a single person in this increasing population of more than 7 billion people”. Well, not exactly. You only have the power to change your perception of your own life, you do not have control over other people’s perceptions as others do not have control over yours. We all have different perspectives and perceptions of life, there are no true correct ones, it all depends on the state of our mind. By allowing yourself to shift towards a more positive perception, you will find your self-worth and achieve the goals you have in mind because you will “know” that you can do them all. It takes tremendous determination to lead our mind where our thoughts want to be.

If I take myself as an example, I had a terrible attitude towards life in my teenage years. I would constantly criticize myself and I did not view life as worth living. There are many events and people who had shaped that life view over time and I did not realize that this view could be changed at any given moment. The environment I lived in was probably the biggest cause to the effect called depression. I had never been privileged growing up, grew up pretty darn dirt poor and never thought that expressing myself was something that I was allowed to do. I was actually taught the opposite and I was taught to listen to other people’s version of my what my life should be. This meant, every important decision was mostly in the hands of others. You know it yourself, dear reader, this is no way to live YOUR life. You can’t let others control who you are and who you will become.

For this reason, despite being taught to never dream big and to fit inside the mold, I still broke through and kept dreaming. I’m writing because I love to write, I’m telling you this because this is what life is about. It’s about finding your own meaning and listening to your inner voice. After all, who knows yourself better than you and your own subconscious do?

Move on to the present now. Leave whatever has been behind because the only thing that matters when moving forward is now. This moment is what counts for the rest of your life.


Many times, I was judged harshly by my friends for the decisions I took in my past. I do admit, most of my decisions weren’t exactly the smartest ones and perhaps they were the wrong ones to take, probably could have avoided a lot of trouble, but I still don’t live in regret of any of them. I now know that each choice I’ve decided to take in life is my own, it belongs to me, and that I am the only one who would live with the feeling of regret of not listening to myself “that one time”. Hmm.. Okay, except maybe that one time where I had a little too much rum and coke, way back when the party scene was relevant in my life, I could have probably listened to my friends back then. Heh.

Despite all your bad decisions, because we’ve honestly all made some pretty bad ones. Well, who knows, maybe you haven’t and you’re a rare unicorn living in unicorn land where everything is fine and dandy but hey, just accept it all. Move on to the present now. Leave whatever has been behind because the only thing that matters when moving forward is now. This moment is what counts for the rest of your life.

Don’t throw your dreams away as if they were worth nothing to you because of your nature to self-doubt. It’s perfectly fine to take baby steps towards a dream, life is a long stairway.

As a final word to this post, please follow what drives you, what gives you energy and what you are passionate about because YOLO. Just kidding. But really, we do only have this one life so let’s live it with the meaning we have created for ourselves. Don’t throw your dreams away as if they were worth nothing to you because of your nature to self-doubt. It’s perfectly fine to take baby steps towards a dream, life is a long stairway. We decide the dreams we create and fulfill in the span of our lives. It’s all our decision whether we’ve achieved a dream or not.

I decided today that I’m achieving my dream of writing a blog, no matter how popular or unpopular my dream may be to others. It might suck bad enough to be in the category of “don’t quit your day job” bad to some people, and that’s perfectly okay. I’ll do my best to be the best I can be in my own eyes, I’ll still be proud of the things I’ve done and you should be too!

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And finally, a real quote, written by someone relevant, to inspire your day today:

Believe you can and you’re halfway there.  — Theodore Roosevelt

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